I told Janet why I didn`t connect to Ruiz`s revolutionary hardware. I explained that I understood the value of agreements, but that it is their practical application that I have to face. The first and fourth collusion, “being impeccable with your word” and “always doing your best”, are not so hard, but the second and third, “take nothing personally” and “don`t make assumptions”, have proved very difficult to practice. If you haven`t heard of these four agreements yet, I`ll present a book that could change your life. This book changed my life. It`s a very simple and quick read. Author Don Miguel Ruiz says that “if you can start living your life with these arrangements, the transformation in your life will be incredible.” I strongly agree with this statement and I feel that this book has renewed my mind. Let us delve into what chords are and how you can apply them to your life in a practical way. I have neither read nor planned this book. I saw these four chords on the wall in a yoga teacher house and laughed. These tenants are what Saniel Bonder, the founder of Waking Down In Mutality, would call hyper-masculine ideas to improve us. They could improve our lives for a while, but like all self-improvement projects, they imply that ultimately we need more self-insurance.
Although there is an important place for the action component in life (the male strength), it is necessary to reconcile it with the softer outfit and to accept the maternity qualities of the deep feminine. Truly loving us for and with all our human weaknesses is the key to the non-judgment of ourselves and others, and a surprising impudence. This can pave the way for a deeper understanding that involves knowing us as an unlimited presence of Devine. Here is a spontaneous list of my 4 chords: (1) Give yourself a break – again and again, we must break many old arrangements and change many domesticated beliefs to really keep a space for someone who is hurt or angry to us without judging, withdraw, defend, accuse intellectualizing, you share your dream.